Change is an inevitable and necessary part of life. Despite its reality, or just because of it, most of us want to reach a certain level of stability, and keep the old convenient, and comfortable situation for as long as possible. Most people in the old continent are afraid of what the unknown will bring. A simple thinking of the things that we haven't lived before can often be intimidating.
If you are one of the many who don’t embrace changes with a smile yet, then you might be heading towards an unhealthy state of a victim of the circumstances.
Feeling constantly under pressure, may be even bullied by someone at work, grooming your fears about not being good enough at home, not being good enough at work, and it seems to you that your opinions do not matter, or you experience that someone in your team is feeling threatened by you without any obvious reasons… you might have plenty of other reasons for a change, but the inside voice keeps sending you those ‘what if —blah blah negative will happen?’
You may either hate to come home in the evenings, or hate to see a certain friend of yours, or feel very disengaged at your job. Do you find yourself complaining about the unimportant details more often and compare the present situation with the past, always praising past, of course?
Bringing changes into your life can be extremely stressful. What are we heading to? Why is this necessary? What will I lose with this? Often we forget to think of what we have to gain with the change, as it would be too disappointing if the level of gain is not reaching the point we were aiming at.
If we can learn how to push ourselves to accept change as a necessary and helpful fact of life, welcome it to our lives more as a friend rather than something bad that we wish to avoid, we will actually be able to experience less stress in life. We would surf the waves with that certain grace and balance that will permit us to enjoy or at least be in control of most of the moments of change. We would gain control over our lives, and feel good about it.
Did it occur to you that if you could convince yourself that investing in more patience, courage and faith to make some changes in your life, no matter how insignificant they may be, you might just reach towards the better you? The fear, self-doubt and uncertainty prevent us from investing ourselves in change. When uncertainty dominates we feel weak, and insignificant. Yet, this same experience of uncertainty and other negativities within and around us allow us to become more prone to open our doors for new possibilities, new ways.
Just like houses are built step by step, we can build our way toward change. The more positive experience we get when trying, the stronger, and better we are prepared to cope in times of change.
You might be contemplating a small or a big change in your life, but no matter how big the difference you will still have to deal with the uncertainty and start moving towards the destination that you have headed for. You will have to let go of certain parts of your life, be it people, material, or comfort, detach yourself and stick to your faith that you can find a better way.
To want change is one thing, but the other is to lance yourself and fetch the better conditions of your life. Encouragement will come also when we surround ourselves with people who have the skills and qualities that we can take as model for ourselves, people who have different points of view, different vision and dare to dream. Those people will bring you freshness and expand your horizons. They are people who do not have interest in limiting you to be what you have been to date.
To be better prepared for change, you may want to get your personal space cleaned of dusty binders, boxes and negativities that you have kept for years, and try to give yourself physical and mental space to think, and rethink your current state and simply let yourself be ready for the new things to come.
You will feel vulnerable at times, and ready to retrieve yourself, from the path of change, but convincing yourself for each step you make, that it is worth, will pay off. If you continue to do the same - dragging yourself around the overbooked agenda, staying occupied with more of the same thing that worn you out, not giving yourself a chance to think and feel - you will not be open for change.
Continue with your efforts, and find your best possible way when you wish to head for a change. It is worth all the effort. The most magnificent change is the one that happens within you. When trying to change a habit, or habitual circumstances you will experience moments of doubt, anger and even a separation. Cultivating the different perspective on life situations will allow you to see past those moments and to the rewards that are still to come.
Even the very best-laid plans can fall apart, so be aware that you may need to revise your ways of dealing with change every now and then along the way.